The Problem With “WHAT IF?”

The problem with asking these What If questions is that many of us have already stopped dreaming big. 

We’ve already decided what our limits are, and what is not possible for us. 

We often have trouble even imagining all the exciting possibilities.

All too often we’ve become stopped in life and we stay stuck. 

We settle for compromise. 

We don’t become the powerful creators we can be.

To avoid the pressures of responsibility, fear of guilt and failure, etc., we "learn" to settle our inner conflicts via compromises in the way of self-dishonesty and rationalization.

Our ways of dealing with (or avoiding, which is usually the case) inner conflict become habits and patterns that we come to identify as part of "who I am." "That's just me - my character, my personality."

Of course identifying with our compromises like this removes even more pressure of responsibility - pressure that could otherwise motivate us to solve/prevent the inner conflicts.

Better to create from conflict, than from compromise.

Here's the subtle difference:

By 'create', the solution to the conflict furthers your overall objective, whereas 'compromise' occurs when the solution lessens/diminishes your  overall objective.

The creators' experience of conflict usually leads to a stronger vision and more passion.

Contrast this to the average person's experience with conflict, which is usually stress, frustration, guilt, etc.

Creators take on big challenges in life because they experience conflict in a highly rewarding way.

Dreamers, doers and losers avoid responsibility in life because they experience it in a much less rewarding way.

People who are natural creators hold much more of an advantage over the rest of us.

Simply because learning more and trying harder is not much of a formula for evolving consciously into a powerful creator.

The point is this: regardless of your beliefs or approach to life, being a creator in life requires more than having "THE solution," "THE way" or "THE Truth."

It's not about knowing what to do as much as it's about getting yourself to do it.

Instead we tend to find comfort zones in life that relieve us from the pressure of responsibility.